You're crippling yourself

This week’s been really fucking good.

Managed to fix my working schedule.

Got another one of my wisdom teeth pulled out,

And overall, it was a beautiful one.

So, here it is:

Nature’s Highlights:

(I liked them both too much and I couldn’t choose. So, you do it. Reply to me saying either ‘1’ or ‘2’ to tell me which photo you like the most)

Now, without further ado:

Since I was small, I pooped my pants every time I was in a new social situation.

I was shy and insecure even before exiting my mother’s womb.

And, on top of that, to make it all worse,

I was sent to school 1 year earlier than I should have been.

Meaning that while others were 7, I was 6.

And guess what a nice ‘advantage’ it is to always be the smallest one.

In every interaction I had, I felt inferior to others. I felt weak, small and unimportant.

And that continued till this day.

I used to sometimes go out with my best friend’s group,

Which only had people that were around 19-20-21 and so forth.

Whilst I was 16.

I felt like that wasn’t my place, like I didn’t fit in, like I had nothing to add.

I either spent the night not talking, or grabbing my friend to the side and chatting with him.

While I didn’t look smaller, that was always how I felt around others.

Also, news flash, one of those bigger friends of mine just invited me yesterday to his birthday .

(Feels a bit like I'm keeping a journal, doesn't it?)

A few months ago, I would have been scared shitless by this.

And while I still am nervous when thinking about it,

The main feeling I have is excitement.

(and the timing is goddamn perfect, just when I had to write in my newsletter. 😂)

I want to see how many new people I can meet, how good I am at socializing and to see if I can actually practice what I preach.

And this is all because of one thing.

One thing that lets me conquer any social fear I may have.

And it isn’t thinking of myself as bigger or shit like that, because my mind will always know the truth.

It’s zooming out.

You know how people always tell you that you need to be more present?

As I see it, all humans need to have 2 states of thinking:

1. Being present in the moment

2. Zooming out to see the landscape

Zooming out is when you step back from the situation at hand,

And you expand the timeline.

Once you do that, you’re able to see how truly insignificant the problems in your mind may be.

In this case, the fear of being rejected.

Because that’s all it is.

We’re afraid of new social interactions because we fear the rejection that may come with it.

We’re afraid of the opinions others may have of us because of it.

We’re afraid of making a fool out of ourselves.

But when we zoom out, and we see the whole landscape of our lives,

We’re able to see how this moment, this fear, these problems are completely void of importance.

The rule that I always apply is this:

• Be present in moments of profound joy and deep sorrow. (you HAVE TO feel both)

• Zoom out for trivial problems and insecurities.

So, next time you’re in an interaction with a new person (or even an old one that makes you insecure)

Remind yourself:

This fleeting moment, when compared to the entirety of life, is nothing but a blip.

What you do now won’t affect you in a day, let alone a month or a year.

So fucking go for it.

Go talk to that cute girl/boy.

Go to that party you’re afraid of.

Go make friends with those Twitter friends that you love.

(Disclaimer: what I said here today isn’t to be applied in the case of you doing something dumb, like procrastinating for entire days. This trick shall only be used to help achieve good things that may seem difficult in the moment. THAT’S IT!)

Thanks so much for reading this far mofo,

I love y’all and I hope you have an amazing day (or night)

And keep growing!

MUAH 💋!