When will your suffering stop?

What’s stopping you from being happy?

No, sorry, let me rephrase that.

What has EVER stopped you from being happy?

No matter the external circumstances, there is no way to answer this other than:

“Myself, I was the only one.”

You see, we often shift that responsibility to the world around us.

I couldn’t be happy because my sister ran away. I couldn’t be happy because my father died. I couldn’t be happy because I had no real friends.

And it’s true that, in those moments, it would’ve been incredibly difficult for me to be happy.

But it would have been possible if I were strong enough.

We live our whole lives at the mercy of what happens to us.

And just how external circumstances can make us feel:

•Happy
•Joyful
•Loved

They can take that away even faster.

As long as other factors outside of yourself have control over your internal state,

You’ll always be at the mercy of life.

You have to take that power away from the world.

And I don’t mean you should:

•Stop being happy when something good happens
•Stop being joyful when everything is perfect
•Stop feeling loved when you’ve finally found the one

But you should give that power consciously.

That’s another thing.

“Negative” emotions can help us grow, so whether we like it or not, it’s good to let them in,

Especially when something big happens.

No person can go through a loved one’s death, through loneliness, through heartbreak and not feel anything.

It’s normal to be hurt, it’s normal to be sad.

That’s how you grow.

But ultimately, it still has to be your decision.

When either good or bad things happen, be aware of how they make you feel.

That’s how you slowly gain control over who decides your happiness.

Thank you so much for reading, guys <3.

If you ever have a problem you feel you could use a little help with,

I want you to know my DMs are always free.

So, if I can ever be of help to you, I’m gonna be here: