Who are you?

Throughout the entire course of your life, you’re in this constant pendulum between who you are and who you want to be.

You may sometimes feel like you really are that amazing person you want to see yourself becoming,

But every time you achieve that, you’re right back to where you started,

You’re right back to you.

For all my life, I’ve created this persona in my head of who I want to be,

How I want to talk, to act and most importantly, to be seen.

Not only by others, but by myself as well.

Because I realized something.

I see myself through the eye of an external source.

Let me explain:

How I feel about myself, whether or not I see myself as mature (which encapsulates a lot of traits), is directly dependent on how I look from the outside.

It’s like seeing yourself in third person,

And making a judgement based on that.

When I was sitting yesterday in my houseware, talking to some of my friends, I felt like a fucking 14-year-old kid who’s just fooling around.

20 minutes later, when I went outside dressed, well groomed,

I felt like a man. And one hell of a man at that.

I felt mature, intelligent, serious, I felt like the person I want to be.

What was different?

How I looked to an outsider.

My mind was still the same, my heart, my soul didn’t change at all.

But I looked different.

So I wondered,

“What can I do when I feel like that 14-year-old kid?”

The immediate answer?

Close your eyes and imagine yourself in the moments you felt like that incredible man you want to be.

Realize you’re no different from him, he’s just a part of you that you have to embody.

The long-term answer is a bit different, though.

Start seeing yourself not through the lens of an imaginary eye, but through the eye of your soul.

You know how you truly are,

So don’t let an outside perspective (even if it appears as yours) change that.

Be the man you want to be, at all times.

It’s in your power.