How to really turn your life around:

Have you ever felt like you’re worse than before?

Like you’re on this self-improvement journey, but yet the you from 3 months ago is better?

Because that’s exactly what happened to me…and not just once.

This has always been the course of my journey:

1.Fall and give into my bad habits
2.Get back up, more determined than ever to fix them
3.Implement the changes necessary
4.Enjoy the benefits
5.Slowly but surely, fall back into them again.

And this isn’t just about bad habits.

After I finished my “30-day-talking to strangers-challenge”, I started being socially awkward again.

Every time, after doing something great, I almost always (with time) end up reverting those changes.

Challenged myself to stop wasting time on my phone —> 1 week without it (perfect) —> Got back to using it for 2-3 hours/day

Challenged myself to stop jerking off —> Went perfectly fine without it —> Slowly getting back to doing it as a habit

And it’s not just from challenges (I just wrote it like that so it would be easier😃), it’s changes I make in general.

This happens only because I give myself “exception days”.

“You can sit on your phone more today”
“It’s okay if you give in right now”
“Let’s not work today. Just relax.”

And one day turns into two, two into more and so on.

I’m tired of this high-low cycle.

I’ve always been of the opinion that balance was the key aspect in this.

But I don’t know if that’s really the case anymore.

I think that, for at least a while, I need to stop giving myself random ‘exception days’.

So here’s what I’m doing to change up all these things:

I’ve set 4 goals for this month, each of them having the purpose of starting me out on a path that I won’t leave:

1.Stop indulging in anything sexually related
2.Stop wasting mindless time on your phone
3.Stop “not feeling like it” and do the work
4.Stop caring about what others think. Be yourself.

And this time, no exception days.

I’m not falling again.

If you want your life to become better, you can’t just wait for “self-improvement to do its thing”.

You have to take action, deliberate and immediate action.