Why no one loves you (or me):

I’ll be honest with you…In my almost 18 years of life I have never had a serious girlfriend.

Every time I like someone, every time I LOVED someone,

They always ended up rejecting me.

I was always, like one of my girl friends told me, “the gay best friend”.

You have no idea how hard that hit,

Knowing that I’ve always been seen as “just a friend” by every crush I had.

There are many reasons why that happened, least of which the fact that I was a pussy who waited 5 months just to disclose my feelings.

But among all of them, here’s the most important one:

I always CRAVED their love.

Every time I liked a girl, half of my affection for them came from my need to have a girlfriend,

Not because I would’ve actually loved them.

I didn’t want to be alone, I couldn’t bare it.

Just so you have some context, from when I was 14 to 16.5, I didn’t have a single DAY where I didn’t have a crush.

I was addicted…and this addiction was the one that made me incapable of having a relationship.

When the other person sees you’re desperation,

They will run away.

Even if they like you,

They will run away.

That’s why the “cold”, “bad” guys get all the girls.

Because girls interpret that toxic attitude as not being needy.

And for almost all of them, that’s a lot better than the alternative we provide.

Slowly but surely, I’m taking care of my need to be together with someone.

I’m learning how to be alone more and more, and to love that.

So if you want not just to enter more relationships and to be liked by more girls,

But also to flourish in the ones you will have,

You have to get rid of this need.

You have to start loving yourself,

Because until you can feel your love, almost nobody’s gonna give theirs to you.

Thank you so much for reading, guys!

I hope you managed to get something from this article

And until next time, I wish you all an amazing week aaaand keep growing!