Nature’s Highlights:

The world is so much different when you can see it with a bird’s eye view.

(I’m not only talking about nature here)

If you take a quick look around, you’ll find that, in a scary proportion, a lot more than half of the people you’ll see are miserable.

Especially when you go to teenagers, “the next generation of adults”, the stats you’ll see are even scarier.

But why? What the fuck are we doing wrong?

The no. 1 problem I see most people have, especially my age, is responsibility.

No one is taking responsibility for their lives,

Which makes sense in a way, because they’re still kids,

~~ But it makes them all miserable. ~~

We’ve grown to believe this shallow idea that we need to just suffer what life throws at us,

Unable to do anything about it.

I think you heard this as well (or something along the lines):

“I can’t be happy right now, something bad happened.” or “I had a bad morning”

Or someone did X or Y to me,

And now I’m stuck in this limbo of unhappiness and confusion until the feeling passes.

Is that the life you want to live? Really?

Do you want to wake up knowing you’re at the mercy of whatever happens to you that day?

Or do you want to know that you can take anything that comes,

And make something great out of it?

It’s not a hard choice, is it?

And all it comes down to is:

~~ Responsibility. ~~

STOP. SHIFTING. THE BLAME.

There are two types of situations where people start blaming others, one more reasonable than the other:

1. They had little control over a situation, and something bad happened:

If I am to have a fight with my mom right now, because she came screaming into my room about some bullshit accusation,

And I start screaming back at her,

Then it’s just as much my fault as it is hers.

The way I see it is:

If I took part in even 0.0001% of the blame, and I could’ve changed the outcome (even by a little bit),

—— Then it’s all my fault. ——

And if it is my fault, then I decide I’m gonna be better next time, and stop caring.

Don’t fall into the trap of guilt-tripping yourself.

It’s even worse than shifting the blame.

2. They had absolutely 0 control over what happened:

In this scenario, we’d be tempted to say: “Well yeah, but it IS their fault.”

To which I say:

Alright, so it’s their fault, who the fuck cares?

If you had no control over the situation, then it’s instantly solved,

You just have to let it go.

Why fight and scream, for something you could not and cannot change the result to?

No matter how good of lives we create, no matter how rich, how powerful, or even how good of a family life we have,

Life, or the Universe, or God, or whatever you want it to be will still slap us with hardship.

(oftentimes one that we cannot control whatsoever)

My father’s death was by far the experience with the most impact on me.

•I didn’t have a single shred of control over it

•I didn’t even know he was dying

•I didn’t even know I was supposed to say ‘goodbye’.

For years, this sole experience felt like the bane of my existence, like the poison I was cursed with.

• No one understood how I felt

• I started hating everyone because of it

• I was left alone, to ‘deal’ (or be dealt with) by my trauma

I don’t know the exact moment,

But after I started listening to a podcast about stoicism (Stoic Coffee Break), everything started to change.

I stopped seeing his death as a curse, and more so as a blessing. (or, as I like to call it, as an ally)

It was the same experience, just seen through a different lens.

And you’re telling me you can’t make the best out of your bad experience?

!Stop kidding yourself!

You have the power in you, you know it, but you’re too comfortable in your own misery to do anything.

Well, that has to stop, now.

How long are you gonna keep living your life kneeling at the mercy of circumstance?

It’s a simple equation:

You don’t have control over it —> LET IT GO

You do have control over it —> CHANGE IT (or shut the fuck up)

Life is simple when you stop complaining about every fly buzzing on the wall.

Get your shit together