The art of Self-Psychology

Since I was 5 years old, ‘Life’, or ‘God’, or ‘The Universe’, started throwing curveballs at me, one after another.

It all started with the death of my aunt, shortly followed by the traumas that would go on to shape life as I knew it:

• My older sister running away from our home when she found out she was adopted.

• My father dying of lung cancer.

I was petrified.

When I heard that my father had died, I was with my mother's cousin in her home.

I didn't cry, I didn't scream, I didn't speak, I didn't even move. I just stood there, lying next to her.

The last two events gave birth inside that small 7-8 year old kid of what I would end up calling ‘panic attacks’.

These were states in which my body couldn’t hold in the emotions I could not express. So it let them out by deep feelings of nausea, sickness and head-aches.

These 'panic attacks' are still coming to haunt me to this day, reminding me that the work is never done.

I tried going to psychologists, but none of them could even understand my problems.

I had no one.

It was my job to heal myself, because no one else could.

That was how most of my childhood years looked: sitting in pain, with no one to express my feelings to, left alone with a mother that needed my help.

Thinking back, I truly don’t know how that kid managed to survive…

But he found a way.

He realized that pain and sorrow wasn’t everything that life had in store for him.

So he started educating himself.

He started the practice which I can now proudly call: “Self-Psychology”

(exactly, the name of the newsletter. Congrats for seeing that. Here’s a thumbs up 👍🏻)

But what exactly does this practice consist of?

I have no clue.

Just kidding. (you should’ve heard the way I said it, would’ve been much funnier)

‘Self-Psychology’ is a combination between, of course, ‘self-improvement’, and ‘psychology’.

Although I think you could already tell that.

It’s based on the idea of improving ourselves, our minds, our spirits, through psychology.

And doing that through ourselves. As I said, I couldn’t get any help back then, neither from friends, ‘family’(the one I had left 😂) or therapists.

It was a one man job.

I learned a lot along the way.

And everything that I've taught myself makes me now able to say that I'm grateful for everything that happened to me as a child.

I'm grateful for all the deaths I had in my family (I told you of only a third).

I'm grateful my sister ran away from home.

I'm grateful I didn't have anyone to talk to.

I'm grateful for all that I've suffered.

And, most of all, I'm grateful for that kid's power and force of will.

I see more and more people today feeling lost, sad and frightened of their lives and what the future has in store for them.

More people are losing their sense of purpose and their desire to live.

And only few rise to their aid.

But I don't want that to be the world I live in.

I don't want that to be the world in which my kids live in.

I'll create a different, better society, in which everyone will be able to embrace the practice of Self-Psychology.

That's why, in this newsletter, combined with my Tweets, I plan on getting you out of the hell hole you may find yourself in.

Come with me on this journey of creating a new, a better world for ourselves...and for our children.

Change starts with us.

So what are we waiting for?

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